actions SPEAK.. period.
Everyone is all talk, it seems. Too much talk, a lot of the time.
Everyone wants to make a change. Everyone wants to DO something to change the world and society and the way people think of themselves and other people. I say, “this would be a great idea,” and I get a lot of, “Yeah, let’s do it!” And nothing happens. I get a lot of, “Yeah, let’s stop talking about our diets! No one wants to hear about it!” followed by, “but seriously, mine’s going pretty well.” I get a lot of, “Why does everyone have to judge everyone?” followed by, “but seriously, she should not be wearing those jeans..” Oh yes, even ED and Fat Awareness advocates. Everyone’s a hypocrite, right down to my absolute favorite, “Size does not determine health” followed by, “If you’re under X lbs, you’re sick and ugly!”
And this isn’t just about food and ED advocacy. What about, “Let’s grab lunch sometime!” and knowing – as the words are coming out of your mouth – that it’s never going to happen. We’ve all done that one. Why do we do it?
Why does everyone take the spoken language for granted? Didn’t someone just win a fucking Nobel Prize, just for talk? Why even do anything. As long as we say we’re going to do it, we can be seen as honest, proud people.
I don’t trust words. I haven’t in a very long time. I trust actions, and I’m not seeing much of that. The words I trust are of those who have followed through, consistently. Very few people.
Stop talking. Fucking do something, already.
If you’re going to follow me, you better be ready to work.
Eva said:
Oct 24, 09 at 2:26 pmCould not agree with you more. I have to say for myself I have had HUGE, CRAZY problems with this. because i am a very honest person and with ED, being the control freak I am; cannot handle if i tell someone im going to do something, when I have NO intention of doing it. If i say ill do something you can be assured ill do it unless it Genuinely slipped my mind, or became UN do able (or previously if behaviours kicked in). SO for a long long time I had great difficulty understanding this in others (you know with the whole narrow minded prespective an ED sufferer has – I thought the whole world thought the way I did!)
So yeah pretty much this bugs me big time, glad to see im not the only one.
Thanks Emmy
Arielle said:
Oct 25, 09 at 12:26 pmTotally with you on this one.
Charlynn said:
Oct 25, 09 at 1:53 pmI agree with this post so much, knowing full well that I am just as guilty as the next person of doing this (generally speaking, not so much about diets). Even so, I am weary of people’s words as well.
David Rubenstein said:
Oct 26, 09 at 9:55 amThe key is NOT to be deterred by the negative that is all around you… stay focused on your mission.
XOXOX, Dad
Bri said:
Nov 14, 09 at 2:20 pmI’m with ya. I see that happening, and I hate it. Even if it is the “norm,” so to speak. I try not to say something unless I plan on following through. Thoguh sometimes it’s expected. Like, when you say “Hi how are you,” and they answer “Fine, thanks” even if they’re not. It’s not really the same thing you’re saying, but kinda the same idea. I don’t know, it’s like just stop being so fake. Grrr.
But seriously, let’s do lunch sometime? Like maybe December 26th? Kthanks.